The family in Britain has undergone a revolutionary change since the beginning of last century, and is weaker than ever before. Clifford Hill discusses what we can learn from the early days of Christianity.

The family in Britain has undergone a revolutionary change since the beginning of last century. In the Victorian era the family was large and consisted of several generations. Children usually had a number of siblings as well as cousins and second cousins and aunties and uncles as well as parents and grandparents. The family was a community that gave identity, support and security to both children and adults.

Family life in Britain today has probably never been weaker. Many children do not even know their own grandparents and many could not name their cousins or second cousins. We are rapidly becoming a nation of individuals who lack identity and security, partly accounting for high levels of depression in British society.

Family life in Britain today has probably never been weaker. There is much we can learn from the early days of the Church, when people from all walks of life were drawn together as a family."

There is much that we can learn from the development of Christianity in its earliest days when people from all walks of life and from different ethnic communities shared a common experience of Jesus which drew them together as a family where they felt loved and valued.

Time of Transition

Roman society in the first century AD was in transition from a Republic to an Empire: from being governed by an elected Senate to coming under the control of an Emperor (a dictator). It was a time of social turmoil in which the one constant factor was the family. It was the family unit that gave stability to the whole Greco-Roman world in a time of great uncertainty.

The family at that time of transition was nothing like the family we know today in our Western civilisation. It was also nothing like the extended family in Victorian England or in African society. The family in Greco-Roman society was a household consisting of blood relatives, adopted children, servants and slaves. The larger households also included wage labourers at one end of the social scale and 'friends' at the other end.

Friends

The 'friends' were extremely high status, enjoying great prestige due to their close and intimate relationship with the head of the family, to whom they acted as counsellors and advisers. When Jesus conferred this title upon his disciples, he was paying them the highest tribute possible. He was sharing his inner thoughts with them; taking them fully into his confidence:

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. (John 15:15)

Clearly, Jesus was fully familiar with the household structure of Roman society in making this statement. He knew that the highest status in Rome was to be called a 'Friend of Caesar'.

In Roman households, 'friends' enjoyed extremely high status, close intimacy with the head of the family and full confidence."

Adopted Children

The adoption of children played a large part in Greco-Roman society. The adopted child also enjoyed a privileged position within the family and a high status in society. There were six principles of adoption in Greek and Roman society, all of which have spiritual significance for us today (see also Paul's teaching in Galatians). These six principles are:

• The adopted child is considered a true son or daughter– as true as one born by blood
• The adoptive father promises to support the child and provide their daily necessities
• The adopted child cannot be repudiated by the adoptive father
• The adopted child cannot be reduced to slavery
• The adopted child cannot be reclaimed by his natural father
• By the adoption the child is constituted an heir of the adoptive father

Adopted children in Greco-Roman society were immensely privileged. They were considered true sons and daughters- true heirs –secure and provided for, and unable to be reclaimed by their natural father."

Paul had all of these principles in his mind when he declared to the Gentile Christians "You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus" (Gal 3:26). He reinforced this with the statement "So you are no longer a slave, but a son: and since you are son, God has made you also an heir" (Gal 4:7). For a Jew to make this statement to the Gentiles was of huge significance! Paul was saying that because God had adopted them, they were actually more secure in the love of the Father than if they had been born Jews! What a wonderful re-assurance this is! God has actually chosen us and adopted us into his family!

Pater Familias

In Roman society the 'Pater Familias' (head of the family) was the ruler of his household. In large households he had enormous power. This was necessary in order to preserve unity within the family and to ensure its smooth working. Jesus was quite familiar with this kind of household, as is seen in his parable of the 'Unmerciful Servant' where the householder exercised absolute power (Matt 18:21-35). The unity of the household-family was essential for its survival which is reflected in Jesus' statement, "Every household divided against itself will not stand" (Matt 12:25).

The unity of the household-family was essential for its survival. Members had to be totally committed and share everything with each other, including their faith."

Family Unity

In order to preserve the unity of the family it was essential that they should share a common faith or religious commitment. When the head of the household became a Christian it was expected that the whole family would adopt the same faith, as when the Philippian jailer was converted. Luke's account of Paul and Silas praying and singing in prison that led to the jailer's conversion says "At that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds: then immediately he and all his family were baptised" (Acts 16:33).

Early Church Model

It was this large household-family that became the model for the Early Church in New Testament times and for several centuries beyond. Jesus was the Head and all the members shared a common belief. They met in one another's homes and shared their food at a 'common meal' as they would in any family home, and there was love, loyalty, and commitment to each other.

Community of Believers

Since they were all adopted children, they were all of the same status in the family. There was no 'one-upmanship'. Their loyalty to the Head of the family – to Jesus, who had rescued them from a crooked generation steeped in the evil practices of darkness - had brought them into the kingdom of light. When they came together their joy overflowed in praise and thanksgiving. The risen Jesus was the Head of the family, the leader of the community. "Jesus is Lord!" was constantly upon their lips.

They were a community of believers; they were family- what a model for us! It would seem that in Britain today, everything conspires against this sort of living. Faith is lived out privately, behind closed doors. Lives are too busy to be deeply shared. Families are broken, far-flung and fluid. But where there is challenge, there is also opportunity for the light of the Gospel to shine- and shine it will, if we let it, in the growing darkness. This doesn't mean that Christians need to have 'perfect' nuclear families (indeed, the early Church model wasn't 'nuclear' at all). It means opening our doors wide to share our lives and our faith with others, in the love of Christ and the unifying power of the Holy Spirit.